Comments on: Rewrite Your Past

By: Philippa Mercieca

Philippa Mercieca — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 13:26:00 +0000

I think so too. Thanks again. Great work by the way with this blog. I'm glad I found it.

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 13:12:00 +0000

Heh, yes, you're absolutely correct, you have.

Personally, I just start at the top of the pile — whatever is bugging you most, at any point in time.. then just work your way down. Makes the most sense, intuitively.

By: Philippa Mercieca

Philippa Mercieca — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 13:00:00 +0000

It's helped a LOT. I've had such trouble letting go of this stuff, I can hardly believe how good I feel right now. I'm forever grateful Si.

I can't wait to work on the other stuff. I was wondering though…does it matter if it's all in order as in, on your personal time frame from birth to the present moment?

I usually work best with random, sporadic memories that come up in no particular order, and so far it's worked with me, so I guess I just answered my own question(:

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 12:51:00 +0000

Oh wow, that is just wonderful!

And yep, I'm exactly the same. There's something about writing something down that just makes it REAL, in a way that visualising or thinking about it really doesn't.

Man, I'm just so glad it's helping you. That's wonderful.

By: Philippa Mercieca

Philippa Mercieca — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 12:42:00 +0000

I just tried this technique around two old memories, and it really helped me to feel loved and relief, where previously that hadn't been there. I wrote the new version down like a diary entry, and found that helped me better than just visualizing it did. I have trouble with visualizing sometimes, but words are much more concrete for me, and helped ot create those good feelings. So thankyou.

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 12:02:00 +0000

Absolutely. You summed it up far more articulately than I was able. Thank you.

By: Philippa Mercieca

Philippa Mercieca — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 11:47:00 +0000

It can go that way…and dishonest abusers will use dirty tactics to deny their bad behavior. If it can work for a person in a healing context though, then what is the damage there? As long as you honestly acknowledge prior to that what actually happened, and process the emotions, and memories and THEN rewrite the past to suit yourself, it can help to create better feelings around those things which your mother obviously isn't decent enough or courageous enough to admit to. Make it work for you is what this person is saying I think.

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Thu, 19 May 2011 21:21:00 +0000

I'm sorry to hear that.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 19 May 2011 19:22:00 +0000

Yea my mother is actually a pro at this technique. Too bad us kids weren't! Every time she re-wrote her memories about her own past she conveniently left out how she was a perpetual abuse victim. She is perfectly happy and can't understand why all her kids are so traumatized by the abuse WE ALSO WERE SUBJECT TO. She just doesn't understand why we didn't learn to "focus on the good things". This kind of thinking is a great way to keep the cycle going.

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Sat, 26 Mar 2011 09:53:00 +0000

Wow. I cannot explain how happy this makes me. I'm SO pleased it's added value to your life — and that you're in a much better place because of it. That's simply brilliant!

Sounds like you're finding lots of neat ways of personalising the approach too, which is just great. Always, always a case of find what works for you, & throw the rest out. Inspiring to hear.