Monthly Archives: March 2009

Better Communication In One Second

I'm going to start a lit­tle geeky, but be patient, I'll keep it super short & it's totally rel­e­vant. What's inter­est­ing about TCP (heard of TCP/IP? Yeah, it's part of that) is how the ini­tial com­mu­ni­ca­tion, the 'hand­shak­ing' bit goes. Very roughly, it's goes like this: Hello? [SYN] I can hear you! [SYN-ACK] Me too! [ACK]

The Mirror Exercise

This is an oldie but goodie. It's sim­plic­ity belies it's power. Regard­less of how easy it is to lie to some­one else, it's much, much harder to lie to our­selves. At least, it's much harder when we're actively pay­ing atten­tion. Find a mir­ror & some per­sonal space. Look your­self in the eyes, & say "I love you."

You Are Not Your Thoughts, Emotions Or Body

Here's an old, but use­ful exer­cise: Pay atten­tion to your thoughts. What are you think­ing right now? Ok. Good. Here's another one: What are you feel­ing right now? What is your pri­mary emo­tion? Ok, excel­lent. Bear with me. If you lost your lit­tle fin­ger in an acci­dent, would you still be you? Or, put another way, since

These Are Not Your Stories

I was at a shaman work­shop last week­end, and the con­cept of "the sto­ries of our life" came up. This makes a lot more sense than merely the sin­gu­lar "story of our life." Our lives are a mul­ti­tude of lay­ers, thou­sands of expe­ri­ences, all lay­ered upon each other, all com­bin­ing together to make the glo­ri­ous­ness that is us!