Comments on: These Are Not Your Stories

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 04:04:38 +0000

Ok, I'll bite — Capricorn checklists, what are they?

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 04:03:06 +0000

Oh yeah, totally. Well, the whole tapping/healing thing, it's all about letting go, really.

Went to see Mr Tolle the other day. Expensive but totally worth it. He's surprisingly funny actually. Kinda like an enlightened stand up comic :)

By: Deanne

Deanne — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 13:16:10 +0000

I am sure you are already aware but Eckhart San would agree with you whole heartedly ...

"...sometimes letting go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on."
Our Main Main Mr Tolle

By: Deanne

Deanne — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 10:43:22 +0000

Thank you as always for your wisdom and loving spirit!

Thanks also for the practical tips — a conscious writing stream sounds like a great way to recount our stories. I am all about the Capricorn check lists, maybe creating a checklist of stories to let go of would really work for me. Arigatou !

By: green_ink

green_ink — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 02:35:35 +0000

Thank you for this Si — it's something I need to really remember. Taking on board someone else's story just weighs you down and prevents you from being the best you possible. I feel very empowered after readingyour words!

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 00:27:56 +0000

In that last sentence, right there.

Definitely learn from these stories, gain the wisdom. Once you have though? Then you're free to let go of them. You won't forget them, but you also don't need to clutch them to you any more.

It's part of the process of gently dismantling the ego. A big goal, I admit, but worth it.

By: Claire

Claire — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 20:00:51 +0000

you know, thats a really wonderful way to lead life. I feel that stories at the same time are important though: they give us a sense of ourselves, and we can better understand ourselves through our stories. Knowing you didn't choose something doesn't mean it didn't effect you. I think it's important to embrace ALL stories, of yourself, your past and your surroundings and use those knowledges to the fullest: not to define but to use as a tool to know what work, doesnt work, what makes you happy and what doesnt, and learn from everyones stories how to live the best possible life by absorbing them as knowledge.

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 09:25:20 +0000

exactly. That's exactly what happens, you're so right.

The important thing is to notice them for what they are - see which are yours, which aren't, and which stories you want to keep telling yourself.... which it sounds like you're doing fantastically. Great stuff!

By: Bleiu

Bleiu — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 04:51:18 +0000

I've tried to follow through with this idea and have to a great extent been successful at it but the amazing thing to me is all the other people in your life try to define you by their stories of you and memories too! And I can't control their thoughts! Great read. Thanks!

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 06:54:42 +0000

Once you've learned the lesson, gained the wisdom, then you have the freedom to let go of the story.

The important first step is to identify which stories you want to keep, and which not - and that many, many of what we think are 'our stories' aren't ours, & never were.

Of course, all this is personal choice. Many (most?) people love their stories. Refuse to let go of them, & are happy like that. That's ok too.