Comments on: Stop Whining, Start Winning

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 07:14:22 +0000

Ha ha.. well here's where I get all self-referential on your ass.. notice how you're complaining about people complaining?

Funny thing I've noticed though, if you can get yourself to a point where you deeply, seriously don't care if people are complaining or not? Well, you'll suddenly discover that far few people complain near you. Plus, as bonus, if anyone does, well, it won't bother you in the slightest, so you'll feel better anyway.

By: DaveLucasNotes

DaveLucasNotes — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:40:59 +0000

Too bad we all have so much to complain about! The hardest part is shutting out the drone of complaints from others sharing one's workspace (or lifespace)!

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Wed, 06 May 2009 01:07:58 +0000

Oh wow, that's frickin' AWESOME. I'm so happy for you.

The other thing I've noticed is the need to gently detangle from people that themselves are complaining a lot. Once you decide to step away from it as a habit, what's to do, disagree with them when they're bitching? Generally I just stay quiet, don't encourage the conversation at all, but it is *cough* a little odd if pretty much all they do is complain about things. Heh.

By: Erika-With-A-J

Erika-With-A-J — Tue, 05 May 2009 09:06:35 +0000

Okay I know you can't see it but my jaw just hit the floor.
This is what I've been thinking for the last couple of months and I have tried to stop complaining and my friends have told me (without me telling them that i have decided to stop complaining) that I seem much happier. And you know what? I am much happier then I've been in a really long time.

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 18:03:19 +0000

I've found the most helpful thing is to have a couple of people you spend time with that are able (& many people aren't) to gently point out when you get like that, so that you can see it & change it.

It can be pretty hard to see if we're just self-monitoring. Not impossible, but certainly easier if you arrange to help a friend with their complaining, & they help you.

By: Tracy

Tracy — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 17:57:41 +0000

Hi Si! I'm late to the show but this post really resonated with me. I've noticed in the past I often bonded with people over whining, but then later that turned into an exhausting drag.

This is something I'm sort of working with Tim on. He didn't tell me "stop yer whinging" but the idea is to move towards what I want more of and I certainly do not want more discontent and exhaustion.

By: Si Dawson

Si Dawson — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 04:25:52 +0000

Awesome.. glad you're having fun "out there"… twitter misses you, btw *winK*

By: Jack M

Jack M — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 04:22:18 +0000

Hehe... admittedly, I haven't read the whole entry yet, as I'm on holiday in the South Island and just noticed the new entry so thought I'd give it a quick skim over before going home again (first net-access in 10 days)...

I had to surpress a quick grin at the comment of the top photo - I never saw any "clutter" of trees, just a lovely border of trees.... must be the photographer in me coming out, eh?

I'll probably post more when I read it properly, too busy with offline life right now... hehe...

- Jack

By: Dave

Dave — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 12:18:55 +0000

Awesome Si, totally agree.
Complaining is contagious — it's a social tool that we rely on far too much in some circles. Need to not only separate ourselves from our own negative thoughts, but others as well.
Smile feels so much better!

By: sheila

sheila — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 05:28:03 +0000

Great post. I cannot stand negativity. I'm constantly trying to reinforce this in my kids. Eventually I keep telling myself. :) It's so EXHAUSTING to think negatively.