Well, first of all — thank you.

Secondly, man, that sounds like a life changing realisation.. & a super important one at that (not like a "always separate whites & coloureds" type of life changing realisation).

The other great side effect is — as with all things, some goals we hit, some take a while longer, or morph into something else.. but if we're happy while we're working towards them, then it all matters much, much less.

The last coaching session I had was focused on setting goals and I had a few possibilities for myself. So, I'm talking to Tim and giving the pros and cons and realized that DUH, the one I wanted to go for was the one that makes me happy and I'd do it for free, forever because I like it so much. The others were okay, and I'd certainly not sniff at doing them for money if I had to, but I'd only thrown them in because they seemed to fit what would be "acceptable" or "safe" or would give me a job I could explain to people easily.

So, I'm choosing to go gung ho with what gives me joy and not worry so much about what other people think or compare myself to others.

I chose my small life. I followed my heart. That' what matters. :) More power to you!

What really started the turn around for me was using EFT. It helped because it worked whether I believed it or not. Regardless of my mental state, or how miserable, upset, drunk or out of control I was. As long as I was very specific with what I tapped on, I could see it helping, one tiny area at a time.

Of course, when I started, it felt like there was SO much to work through, it was utterly overwhelming. So, I just tapped on feeling overwhelm, & kept going. Some big successes, many little ones, & a couple of years down the track I can't even imagine where I've come from, & wouldn't go back for all the tea in China.

As I got more clarity, & felt less & less attached to those negative thought patterns, it became easier to use other tools as well, & gradually a stronger sense of self has emerged from the mess.

If you want to follow my journey, have a read through this. Allow yourself to be as critical as you like, that's totally fine. If you find anything not raising as much internal noise, maybe give it a shot. See if it seems to help.

The key thing was to go easy on myself. Take it a day at a time. Be happy with small steps, & just keep moving forward.