Category Archives: communication

Learning To Love Everything

Unconditional love is a slippery little bugger. The basic problem is judgement. As soon as our brain screams "This guy doesn't deserve love" or "Yes he does!" then voila, it's no longer unconditional. Yes, even deciding someone does deserve love is not unconditional. But ok, let's back up a bit. Why the hell bother with …

29/Mar/2012 – 13:48 | By Si | Posted in communication, healing, self-improvement | Comments (4)

Are You Using The Internet, Or Is The Internet Using You?

I've been giving my internet use a bit of thought recently. I realised (wild generalisation alert!), there are two primary ways I use the internet: To waste time To find information and, of course, a few secondary ways: To build, create, produce, expand (eg, write a blog post, build a business, send love to people) To …

11/Mar/2011 – 12:05 | By Si | Posted in communication, life, self-improvement | Comments (3)

How To Never Feel Rejected Again

I'm finding that when I get the same thing occurring in many areas of my life within a very short period of time it's time for me to learn a very specific lesson. Recently I found myself feeling rejected, in various ways, in 6 or 7 different situations over the span of a week or so. …

22/Jun/2010 – 09:46 | By Si | Posted in communication, life, self-improvement | Comments (35)

Talking By Text Sucks (& How)

Particularly in recent years, reading & writing have taken over our lives. We communicate primarily by text an increasing amount of the time. Facebook, Twitter, email, IM, SMS, blogs, forums, the list goes on. There are some very real problems with communicating by text. Asymmetry Unless both parties are typing an equal amount, any text based conversation …

07/Jun/2010 – 13:28 | By Si | Posted in communication, life | Comments (19)

Making Friends Online

I've been online a very long time. Since the late 80's. That's before what we currently know as the net was much more than a twinkling in a small handful of San Francisco computers. So, I've had a lot of time to think about the intricacies & common pitfalls of meeting someone online. The first …

17/May/2010 – 17:02 | By Si | Posted in communication, life | Comments (8)

How To Be Confident

Confidence is a funny thing. It comes in two flavours. How confident other people believe you are, & how confident you feel internally. The two are related, but not necessarily linked. E.g., it's quite common that other people see us as more confident than we may actually feel. So how do you go about becoming …

25/Aug/2009 – 05:01 | By Si | Posted in communication, healing, self-improvement | Comments (9)

Stop Whining, Start Winning

How often do you complain? No, I don't mean half hour long soliloquies at the barista because your coffee is cold, I mean just everyday complaints. Anytime you verbally express a negative thought, that's a complaint. Why do we do this? Habit, typically. Sometimes boredom, But deeper than that — oftentimes it's a social thing …

17/Apr/2009 – 06:21 | By Si | Posted in communication, life, self-improvement | Comments (13)

The Importance Of Speech

"If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind?" — Buddha I heard this quote the other day (thanks @tinybuddha), and it hit like a ton of bricks. pic by Trove Designs When I was growing up, I was always told "If you haven't got anything nice …

15/Aug/2008 – 01:16 | By Si | Posted in communication, health | Comments (12)