Category Archives: healing

Bad Morning

This morning I woke up feeling bad. How bad? Really bad. The worst I've felt in… months? Kinda like this: (Years back I used to sing this to myself every day at work… but that's a whole other story) In fact, I distinctly remember thinking "God, I feel so crap even a blowjob wouldn't cheer me …

26/Jun/2011 – 16:35 | By Si | Posted in healing, life | Comments (4)

Dealing To Fear

Fear is very simple. Our usual reaction to fear, anxiety, in fact any "negative" or "unpleasant" emotion is to avoid it. To either push it down or try to escape it (booze, sex, TV etc). And this works! Well, kinda. All it really does is push that emotion back down again, but, like an unkillable hydra, it …

25/Jun/2011 – 16:36 | By Si | Posted in healing, health | Comments (2)

Map'n'Tap, Version 2

I originally wrote about the Map N Tap a loooong time ago. The basic gist goes like this: Most issues (particularly core or long-held beliefs) are like little spiderwebs. There are lots of things tied in around them — both positive & negative (ie, both attachments and aversions). So, to clear out anything significant: Get yourself …

24/Jun/2011 – 01:24 | By Si | Posted in healing, self-improvement | Comments (9)

Simpler EFT

I've been using EFT daily for a long time. The commonest confusion I've heard in that time is "What do I say?" Generally speaking, what you say is more or less irrelevant. It serves primarily to keep you focused on the situation or issue you're tapping out. Understandably then, I was pretty excited to discover the …

20/Jun/2011 – 11:31 | By Si | Posted in healing | Comments (7)

This Is The Fun Bit!

Positive reframing is an interesting thing. In case you haven't heard of reframing (or can't be bothered reading the wiki page), I'll quickly explain it. Reframing is the act of taking something shitty, and spinning it to emphasise the (to you) positive aspects. Here's a classic example: So really, it's just choosing to look at …

16/Jun/2011 – 23:59 | By Si | Posted in healing, life | Comments (2)

Dealing With Overwhelm

Overwhelm is a huge part of life. It happens to the best of us. Eventually there's a point where we just can't keep up. As life gets ever busier & more distracting, the likelihood of it happening continues to climb. Obviously it's also a huge contributor to stress (and all the nastiness that entails). So, …

12/May/2011 – 10:53 | By Si | Posted in healing, life | Comments (4)

How To Stop Being A Victim And Regain Your Power

Being a victim means feeling that something or  someone outside ourselves controls some part of our lives. Put simply, we lose connection with the fact that we create every single aspect of our existence. Often it may be difficult at the time to see how or why, but we do. Of course, this can be a …

07/May/2011 – 10:30 | By Si | Posted in healing, self-improvement | Comments (6)

Escaping From Escapism

I've been thinking about escapism for a while now. What is escapism? Essentially, anything that takes us away from being fully present. So, this would include: Watching TV/movies (a personal favourite) Booze (ditto) Sex (can be — depending on context) Food (any emotional altering food — carbs to dampen, sugars to elevate, etc) Daydreaming Worrying (ie, …

01/May/2011 – 09:26 | By Si | Posted in healing | Comments (8)

Dissociating From Subconscious Impulses

One of the trickiest thing with healing (read: improving our lives) is that so much of what affects us happens below our level of consciousness. We are, indeed, icebergs. So, while intellectually we know things to be true: we want to be happy, loving, at peace; in reality our lives are often far different. The …

26/Apr/2011 – 11:45 | By Si | Posted in healing, self-improvement | Comments (1)

How To Love Your Life

I've been giving quite a lot of thought to the saying "What you resist persists" (variously attributed to either Carl Jung, or Werner Erhard). The logic of this is reasonably straight forward. Our brains don't understand negatives particularly well. This is why when you drive a car, you look where you want to go, not …

17/Apr/2011 – 00:38 | By Si | Posted in healing, life, self-improvement | Comments (8)