Category Archives: healing

This Is The Fun Bit!

Positive reframing is an interesting thing. In case you haven't heard of reframing (or can't be bothered reading the wiki page), I'll quickly explain it. Reframing is the act of taking something shitty, and spinning it to emphasise the (to you) positive aspects. Here's a classic example: So really, it's just choosing to look at

Dealing With Overwhelm

Overwhelm is a huge part of life. It happens to the best of us. Eventually there's a point where we just can't keep up. As life gets ever busier & more distracting, the likelihood of it happening continues to climb. Obviously it's also a huge contributor to stress (and all the nastiness that entails). So,

How To Stop Being A Victim And Regain Your Power

Being a victim means feeling that something or  someone outside ourselves controls some part of our lives. Put simply, we lose connection with the fact that we create every single aspect of our existence. Often it may be difficult at the time to see how or why, but we do. Of course, this can be a

Escaping From Escapism

I've been thinking about escapism for a while now. What is escapism? Essentially, anything that takes us away from being fully present. So, this would include: Watching TV/movies (a personal favourite) Booze (ditto) Sex (can be — depending on context) Food (any emotional altering food — carbs to dampen, sugars to elevate, etc) Daydreaming Worrying (ie,

Dissociating From Subconscious Impulses

One of the trickiest thing with healing (read: improving our lives) is that so much of what affects us happens below our level of consciousness. We are, indeed, icebergs. So, while intellectually we know things to be true: we want to be happy, loving, at peace; in reality our lives are often far different. The

How To Love Your Life

I've been giving quite a lot of thought to the saying "What you resist persists" (variously attributed to either Carl Jung, or Werner Erhard). The logic of this is reasonably straight forward. Our brains don't understand negatives particularly well. This is why when you drive a car, you look where you want to go, not

An Unexpected Gain

Here's something I have no logical explanation for. As you may have experienced yourself, when I hit 30, I started to notice I couldn't drink as much as I could when I was a teenager. Or rather, I could, but boy, it hurt like crazy the next day. So, I did some research, & figured out

How Tense Is Your Face?

I'm the worst poker player in the world, but more on that later. The relationship between the physical & emotional is nothing new: If Charles Schulz figured it out in 1960, it's reasonable  to expect science to have filled in some gaps since then. In fact, there is now an entire specialization dedicated to the physiological

Release Your Crap; Let The Awesome You Shine!

Releasing is a pretty straight forward concept: simply "let go" of any thoughts/feelings/problems you might have — just like dropping a handful of dirt to the floor. There are many releasing techniques available. They're relatively similar though, so I'll discuss the two key ones I've found so far. If you're interested, both of these stem from discoveries

How To End Hate (& its nasty side effects)

Ever heard that saying "What you resist persists"? Ahh yes. I've noticed a few patterns in my life recently. In general, I've spent the last few years on a bit of a spiritual journey. Clearing out, well, pretty much everything. The downside to this is, as I've got clearer, what remaining crap is there has