Category Archives: self-improvement

My Life's Purpose: Loving Through Service

In Oct 2009, I started Twit Cleaner. This business has been through some ups & downs, but over the last year or so I noticed myself disconnecting almost completely. I'd lost all motivation for it, and for life in general. I've kept working, of course, but my heart just hasn't been in it. I knew (some

An Unexpected Gain

Here's something I have no logical explanation for. As you may have experienced yourself, when I hit 30, I started to notice I couldn't drink as much as I could when I was a teenager. Or rather, I could, but boy, it hurt like crazy the next day. So, I did some research, & figured out

How Tense Is Your Face?

I'm the worst poker player in the world, but more on that later. The relationship between the physical & emotional is nothing new: If Charles Schulz figured it out in 1960, it's reasonable  to expect science to have filled in some gaps since then. In fact, there is now an entire specialization dedicated to the physiological

Release Your Crap; Let The Awesome You Shine!

Releasing is a pretty straight forward concept: simply "let go" of any thoughts/feelings/problems you might have — just like dropping a handful of dirt to the floor. There are many releasing techniques available. They're relatively similar though, so I'll discuss the two key ones I've found so far. If you're interested, both of these stem from discoveries

How To Never Feel Rejected Again

I'm finding that when I get the same thing occurring in many areas of my life within a very short period of time it's time for me to learn a very specific lesson. Recently I found myself feeling rejected, in various ways, in 6 or 7 different situations over the span of a week or so.

TV Trains You To Expect The Worst

I was watching an episode of United States of Tara the other day when I had something of a realisation. In case you don't know the show, here's the back story. Tara is a woman with dissociative identity disorder (aka multiple personalities). For the sake of TV, they are 5 (or 6) very distinct &

The Moments That Define Us

Now, from a title like that, you may be thinking I'm talking about those lifetime events that mark our place in history — ala Bill Gates selling DOS to IBM, or Lawn Chair Larry. No, I'm talking about the moments that define our character, and as a result, ultimately us as human beings. It breaks

Anger is Stupid

Two interesting things happened to me this week. The first, let's call "Event X", was that someone made me very, very angry. There's no value in getting into the specifics, but I've wracked my brain & been unable to come up with a worse thing that anyone has ever done to me. There probably is, I

How To Be Confident

Confidence is a funny thing. It comes in two flavours. How confident other people believe you are, & how confident you feel internally. The two are related, but not necessarily linked. E.g., it's quite common that other people see us as more confident than we may actually feel. So how do you go about becoming

How To Stop Feeling Bad

Why do we feel bad? It's a good question. An easy answer would be "because bad stuff happens to us", but what for one person would be a disaster, someone else might barely notice. So what's actually going on here? In a nutshell? We beat ourselves up. That little voice in our heads giving us shit. Yep,