si dawson

:-)

"All these rules. Why? They're all bullshit.

They're all rules that we're hold­ing onto that stop us from expe­ri­enc­ing hap­pi­ness now."

Holy mole, you are so right.

I have noth­ing more to add than my endorse­ment of your rightness.

'Every moment we choose a higher vibra­tion thought or emo­tion over a lower one, is a moment we become happier.'

I really LOVE that piece of sparkling truth. Awesome.

Thanks Si :-)

Ahh, don't thank me, I'm just lis­ten­ing to the uni­verse *smile*

Si, you never fail to make me smile! Thank you for this deli­cious post!

Heh, thanks!

mMmm deli­cious. Also goes well with honey & a lit­tle cin­na­mon. *grin*

This is absolutely bril­liant. I'm in awe not only of your atti­tude as a whole, but how you've man­aged to write so artic­u­lately about this. I think I'm going to print this out, I know I'll refer to it often.

Love your work Si! :)

Wow, thank you so much. Super kind of you to say! *blush*

i can't believe i ran across this now. i am totally strug­gling with this. a boy kissed me at a party but he has a girl­friend. ever since then i feel like i sud­denly dis­cov­ered that i have a crush on him. and i am sad all the time because i feel like he doesn't want me, and he used me.

i keep telling myself a kiss is just a kiss, and it wasn't my fault. but i will con­tinue to con­cen­trate on not let­ting other peo­ple rule my emotions.

Si, this is so true…if you choose to let go, you can get on with your life.

Great Post

Amelia

Thank you as always for shar­ing yummy secrets! ;)

and, impor­tantly, keep mak­ing that choice, every moment you remem­ber. One day at a time, lit­tle by lit­tle, things get better.

absolutely incred­i­ble. my new favourite blog. thank you for shar­ing this, so much. :)

I could not agree more. This is how I've felt all my life. There­fore there are lit­tle things that really get to me. But when I tell peo­ple they can choose what feel­ings to have one argu­ment always seems to pop up: "But what if you've been trau­ma­tized because of abuse or vio­lence or some­thing." I believe in this with every mol­e­cule of my body but how can you tell a rape vic­tim to just let it go. Never have I been able to come up with a proper response which sup­ports this the­ory. Can you, Si?

Cheers

That's a big ques­tion. Heal­ing major trauma can be very com­plex. Ulti­mately it is still comes down to choice though. I've helped peo­ple heal some VERY major trau­mas (the kind that leave you won­der­ing how human beings can pos­si­bly treat each other so vilely), and it's always come down to choices:

* The choice to either focus on the event, or start heal­ing
* The deci­sion to not let the trauma define them (ie, NOT to choose the 'vic­tim' role)
* The choice to accept respon­si­bil­ity for how they are feel­ing. The sit­u­a­tion has hap­pened, you can't change that, but you CAN decide you're going to do every­thing within your power to stop feel­ing the neg­a­tive emo­tions result­ing from the event.

There is also a large amount of courage required, and sup­port is very helpful.

Gen­er­ally unless you've already prac­tised let­ting go of (sedona method/releasing) smaller issues (or you're work­ing with some­one expe­ri­enced), just "let­ting go" of some­thing seri­ous may be too com­plex to reli­ably clear out all the details. How­ever, there are many tools avail­able (from cog­ni­tive behav­ioural ther­apy through to energy heal­ing & every­thing in between) to assist with this kind of work. And at every stage? Yes, the per­son involved has choices to make.

To be VERY clear here. I am NOT (oh God no) try­ing to dimin­ish the pain that peo­ple go through. Think­ing of some of the sto­ries I've heard (& helped heal) bring me to tears as I write this. How­ever, ulti­mately, we still have the respon­si­bil­ity, and the free­dom (most impor­tantly) to choose how long & how badly any­thing makes us feel.

Oh, and some of the strength I've seen peo­ple exhibit? Their courage & deter­mi­na­tion — to keep mak­ing those choices despite things so hor­rific they wouldn't legally be allowed to be depicted on movies? It's both hum­bling & awe inspiring.

Thank you for your words of wis­dom and for being so clear and com­pas­sion­ate.
I agree com­pletely as some­one who is cur­rently work­ing through the pain of sev­eral expe­ri­ences. To me, you've summed up the heal­ing process, choos­ing time and again to let go and move through to more pos­i­tive feelings.

Thank you, & I'm glad you're man­ag­ing to work through your pain. That's huge — & won­der­ful to hear.

Breaks my heart, but I know so many peo­ple who aren't even able (or will­ing, per­haps) to take those steps nec­es­sary. So glad you are.

You are so absolutely beau­ti­ful in every sin­gle way, Si! It really is as sim­ple as choos­ing to be hap­pier. Some days are pure bliss and the more I choose hap­pi­ness in every sin­gle moment, the closer I am to liv­ing in bliss at all times. I have a feel­ing you are pretty close to that, from all that you've written/shared.

———
So, you really DID get mar­ried and it WAS your birth­day! What a joy­ous time in your life!! I cel­e­brate your spe­cial occas­sions and wish you a life of love, laugh­ter, health, wealth, beauty, and bliss!

We need more Si Daw­sons in this world!

I love you!

Wendi
XOXOXO

Oh Wendi, I'm speech­less. THANK YOU. Wow.

*blows kisses*

Hello! Mr. Daw­son. Thanks for the encour­ag­ing words in this blog. This helped me a lot. I just recently broke up with the man I love and the pain just sim­ply won't go away. I am in the phase were I am still hop­ing that he will come back to me. I know it's an impos­si­bil­ity, though. I am in Manila and he is now liv­ing in Vic­to­ria, Mel­bourne. What hap­pened to us is real tragic and sad. I know that I will be per­fectly alright one lit­tle steps at a time. I saw your blog through this web­site: http://galadarling.com/

I think I agree at least in part. But, I won­der do you have any thoughts with regard to brain chem­i­cal inbalances.

awe­some, well done

This is soooooo inter­est­ing!
Wow!

For­give the ran­dom blog com­ment — I had some ideas about your Twit­ter query and some­times 140 char­ac­ters doesn't allow for the gen­eral vol­u­bil­ity flow. Oth­er­wise known as "rambling."

A thought on the ambi­tion vs. com­pas­sion idea — or, more accu­rately, the ambi­tion PLUS com­pas­sion idea: Put your­self in a very com­pas­sion­ate state — a com­pas­sion bub­ble, if you will — and think about your goals/ambition/whatever you're look­ing to do from that space. I often do this with my own dual issues of love vs. frus­tra­tion (what­ever else might be going on) (and OH! how things are often going on). I'll put myself in a very lov­ing place, just sur­round myself with it, and then I'll think about what­ever prob­lem I'm hav­ing from there. What­ever I'm wrestling with often just falls into place. Because I'm approach­ing it from the place I want to be.

Maybe try it with com­pas­sion and ambi­tion. It may work.

It may not, but that's OK. :)

Hi Reham

Sorry for the delay reply­ing, I had a tech­ni­cal issue with some of the comments.

Re breakup pain? Ohhh yes, I know it well. What really helped me was eft. Just tap­ping on any thoughts, mem­o­ries, or beliefs that come up. It can seem a lit­tle over­whelm­ing at times, but it really helps, &, as you point out, things do become ever more per­fect, one lit­tle step at a time. Tomor­row will always be brighter.

Hi. Sorry for the delay in reply­ing — had some tech­ni­cal issues that were hid­ing some comments.

This is a very impor­tant ques­tion. Moods, emo­tions & thoughts are very heav­ily affected by our phys­i­cal bod­ies (our phys­i­ol­ogy). Now, I can't speak about spe­cific genetic imbal­ances, or ill­nesses (except to say give EFT a bash, it seems to work on damn near every­thing else). I can, how­ever, talk about the effects of food.

This is some­thing I got to know pretty well over the last year or so, as I've been clean­ing up my own diet. A lot of this is super obvi­ous, and you'll already know it. Even so, it's worth remind­ing your­self of the effect of things like caf­feine, dehy­dra­tion (which kicks in ridicu­lously quickly), alco­hol (a big­gie for depres­sion — hello! it's a depres­sant!), sugar (the 20min later crash).

Plus other odd­i­ties which depend on your per­sonal metab­o­lism. Dairy can muck a lot of sys­tems up. Also wheat. Salt can raise blood pres­sure (ie, make you more stressed). & don't get me started about arti­fi­cial preser­v­a­tives, sweet­en­ers, colours, thick­en­ing agents & what not.

When you start load­ing up on all these things at once? Man, all bets are off.

What I've learned (for myself) is that the more I min­imise the above — or at least, if I DO choose to have them, I stay aware of how they're likely to make me feel — the bet­ter my moods are. If I drink one night, I know I'll feel a bit crappy the next morn­ing. So I don't take it per­son­ally, & I pretty much ignore any sad thoughts that come up — coz I know it's just coz my brain chem­istry is out of whack. Being able to remind your­self helps a LOT.

So. Once you fig­ure out which foods affect you in which ways, this helps ENORMOUSLY. You can min­imise the stuff that drags you down, get­ting your phys­i­ol­ogy in a much bet­ter basic state. From there, that puts you in a much bet­ter posi­tion to start mak­ing choices from a sta­ble, gen­er­ally ok place.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE this post!!!
Thank YOU Sweet Angel for shar­ing YOUr LOVE's Light through such inspir­ing Words of Wis­dom!!
YES!!!
EVEN in the "SHIT" of what WE CHOOSE to PERCEIVE thereas, that may BE occur­ring in our lives, our sur­round, at ANY given moment, it IS WE whom CHOOSEs how we shall Per­ceive, Receive/Interpret, and Respond to ANY sit­u­a­tion, thought, emo­tion.
This is what it is to have "Free Will"- this is HOW we CREATE our Lives, our Life Expe­ri­ences, HOW we are the "direc­tors, pro­duc­ers, and star­ring actors/actresses" in our play we ALL call, Life :O)
Big Big Big Hugs and Much LOVE LOVE LOVE to YOU Si, WE are ALL Blessed YOUr BEau­ti­Full BEing­ness!
Pos­i­tive Abun­dance man­i­fest phys­i­cally within YOUr Every NOW, ALL­ways!! Sweet Angel!
YOU radi­ate LOVE's Light of SUCH IMMENSITY, it is merely a mat­ter of CHOOS­ing to BE Open to Receive ALL the BEauty, Bless­ings, LOVE's Light & Pos­i­tive Abun­dance await­ing YOUr embrace!

Yup your right! It is always a choice. If you coose to be alone and sad. No one will suf­fer aside from you itself.

Thanks for the inspi­ra­tional article.

hey sure thing — thanks for find­ing me :)

thank you for this very inter­est­ing article

Very very thanks for this nice article !

This post is very inter­est­ing one to read Great

you are totally right

*smile* thank you..

you got a point there..