si dawson

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'Every moment we choose a higher vibration thought or emotion over a lower one, is a moment we become happier.'

I really LOVE that piece of sparkling truth. Awesome.

Thanks Si :-)

Si, you never fail to make me smile! Thank you for this delicious post!

This is absolutely brilliant. I'm in awe not only of your attitude as a whole, but how you've managed to write so articulately about this. I think I'm going to print this out, I know I'll refer to it often.

Love your work Si! :)

i can't believe i ran across this now. i am totally struggling with this. a boy kissed me at a party but he has a girlfriend. ever since then i feel like i suddenly discovered that i have a crush on him. and i am sad all the time because i feel like he doesn't want me, and he used me.

i keep telling myself a kiss is just a kiss, and it wasn't my fault. but i will continue to concentrate on not letting other people rule my emotions.

Thank you as always for sharing yummy secrets! ;)

absolutely incredible. my new favourite blog. thank you for sharing this, so much. :)

That's a big question. Healing major trauma can be very complex. Ultimately it is still comes down to choice though. I've helped people heal some VERY major traumas (the kind that leave you wondering how human beings can possibly treat each other so vilely), and it's always come down to choices:

* The choice to either focus on the event, or start healing
* The decision to not let the trauma define them (ie, NOT to choose the 'victim' role)
* The choice to accept responsibility for how they are feeling. The situation has happened, you can't change that, but you CAN decide you're going to do everything within your power to stop feeling the negative emotions resulting from the event.

There is also a large amount of courage required, and support is very helpful.

Generally unless you've already practised letting go of (sedona method/releasing) smaller issues (or you're working with someone experienced), just "letting go" of something serious may be too complex to reliably clear out all the details. However, there are many tools available (from cognitive behavioural therapy through to energy healing & everything in between) to assist with this kind of work. And at every stage? Yes, the person involved has choices to make.

To be VERY clear here. I am NOT (oh God no) trying to diminish the pain that people go through. Thinking of some of the stories I've heard (& helped heal) bring me to tears as I write this. However, ultimately, we still have the responsibility, and the freedom (most importantly) to choose how long & how badly anything makes us feel.

Oh, and some of the strength I've seen people exhibit? Their courage & determination — to keep making those choices despite things so horrific they wouldn't legally be allowed to be depicted on movies? It's both humbling & awe inspiring.

Thank you, & I'm glad you're managing to work through your pain. That's huge — & wonderful to hear.

Breaks my heart, but I know so many people who aren't even able (or willing, perhaps) to take those steps necessary. So glad you are.

Oh Wendi, I'm speechless. THANK YOU. Wow.

Hello! Mr. Dawson. Thanks for the encouraging words in this blog. This helped me a lot. I just recently broke up with the man I love and the pain just simply won't go away. I am in the phase were I am still hoping that he will come back to me. I know it's an impossibility, though. I am in Manila and he is now living in Victoria, Melbourne. What happened to us is real tragic and sad. I know that I will be perfectly alright one little steps at a time. I saw your blog through this website: http://galadarling.com/

awesome, well done

Forgive the random blog comment — I had some ideas about your Twitter query and sometimes 140 characters doesn't allow for the general volubility flow. Otherwise known as "rambling."

A thought on the ambition vs. compassion idea — or, more accurately, the ambition PLUS compassion idea: Put yourself in a very compassionate state — a compassion bubble, if you will — and think about your goals/ambition/whatever you're looking to do from that space. I often do this with my own dual issues of love vs. frustration (whatever else might be going on) (and OH! how things are often going on). I'll put myself in a very loving place, just surround myself with it, and then I'll think about whatever problem I'm having from there. Whatever I'm wrestling with often just falls into place. Because I'm approaching it from the place I want to be.

Maybe try it with compassion and ambition. It may work.

It may not, but that's OK. :)

Hi. Sorry for the delay in replying — had some technical issues that were hiding some comments.

This is a very important question. Moods, emotions & thoughts are very heavily affected by our physical bodies (our physiology). Now, I can't speak about specific genetic imbalances, or illnesses (except to say give EFT a bash, it seems to work on damn near everything else). I can, however, talk about the effects of food.

This is something I got to know pretty well over the last year or so, as I've been cleaning up my own diet. A lot of this is super obvious, and you'll already know it. Even so, it's worth reminding yourself of the effect of things like caffeine, dehydration (which kicks in ridiculously quickly), alcohol (a biggie for depression — hello! it's a depressant!), sugar (the 20min later crash).

Plus other oddities which depend on your personal metabolism. Dairy can muck a lot of systems up. Also wheat. Salt can raise blood pressure (ie, make you more stressed). & don't get me started about artificial preservatives, sweeteners, colours, thickening agents & what not.

When you start loading up on all these things at once? Man, all bets are off.

What I've learned (for myself) is that the more I minimise the above — or at least, if I DO choose to have them, I stay aware of how they're likely to make me feel — the better my moods are. If I drink one night, I know I'll feel a bit crappy the next morning. So I don't take it personally, & I pretty much ignore any sad thoughts that come up — coz I know it's just coz my brain chemistry is out of whack. Being able to remind yourself helps a LOT.

So. Once you figure out which foods affect you in which ways, this helps ENORMOUSLY. You can minimise the stuff that drags you down, getting your physiology in a much better basic state. From there, that puts you in a much better position to start making choices from a stable, generally ok place.

Yup your right! It is always a choice. If you coose to be alone and sad. No one will suffer aside from you itself.

Thanks for the inspirational article.

*smile* thank you..