si dawson

I had a real­i­sa­tion recently.

Fun­da­men­tally, the only per­son that has any con­trol over how I feel is me.

I choose how I feel.

So, any time I feel bad due to some­one else's actions, I know that's just a pain body react­ing. That's just my ego, get­ting in the way, hurt­ing me, want­ing me to feel pain.

There­fore, by releas­ing that pain when it comes up. Feel­ing the feel­ing & let­ting it go, I'm heal­ing every­thing I expe­ri­ence, right there & then.

For more dis­turb­ing, larger or messier things, giv­ing it a good old bash with EFT has also helped kick this stuff out.

Every time that I've felt less-than-blissful, it's been an oppor­tu­nity for me to heal — to heal what­ever it is inside me that is react­ing to exter­nal stim­u­lus, & leav­ing me feel­ing bad.

Ha! And life being what it is, there's been a lot of chances for that.

As a result? I know I'm in a much, much bet­ter place than I have been, sim­ply as a result of doing this.

Now, this jour­ney hasn't always been pleas­ant at all. I wouldn't wish some aspects of it in any­one. How­ever, I have observed that things that have recurred have both­ered me less & less till they haven't both­ered me at all.

Know what hap­pens then? They seem to stop hap­pen­ing at all.

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Why is that?

Well, some peo­ple would say that we draw things into our exis­tence because we are a vibra­tional match for them. Like attracts like, you know, the law of attrac­tion stuff.

Which means is (as unpleas­ant as it is to hear this) that every mis­er­able thing I expe­ri­ence is there because some part of me wants it there.

Ok, now before we go get­ting all sui­ci­dal here (because that train of thought can get a bit damn depress­ing if you fol­low it too long through every bad thing that's ever hap­pened to you), realise this: These things appear so you can learn.

That's why, when you learn the les­son (or heal), they sim­ply stop hap­pen­ing to you.

In my case, I've had sev­eral occa­sions where I healed enough of that pain & the peo­ple respon­si­ble quite lit­er­ally dis­ap­peared from my life. Moved away. Overnight.

So that's the good news.

The point here is this: Every bad thing that occurs to you is an oppor­tu­nity to instantly, eas­ily & sig­nif­i­cantly improve your life.

Every upset is a chance for growth.

By imme­di­ately let­ting go of the neg­a­tive emo­tion you're feel­ing, as you're feel­ing it, minute by minute your life is get­ting — even right through the mid­dle of hor­rific pain & unpleasantness.

For a start, you'll stop feel­ing bad even while things that used to upset you are still happening.

More inter­est­ingly, those (pre­vi­ously) neg­a­tive exter­nal sit­u­a­tions will, as if by magic, stop occurring.

Now, don't take my word for it, check it out your­self, by all means.

How­ever, let's say I'm wrong — what does it mat­ter? If you've let go, com­pletely, of your inter­nal reac­tions to these painful events, then you won't care any­way. You'll just sit there like a Hindu cow, cool as a cucum­ber while things spi­ral around you.

I know because this is exactly how I became. Their pain & suf­fer­ing would be swirling around in a way that I know would pre­vi­ously have upset me enor­mously, & it didn't bother me in the slight­est. The pain body inside me that had been react­ing to that par­tic­u­lar stim­u­lus had been com­pletely neutralised.

Also, this comes back to our pain bod­ies dis­cus­sion. If there's no inter­nal reac­tion at all from you, then there's noth­ing for the other person's pain body to push against — so it nat­u­rally dis­si­pates — in the quick­est, health­i­est way possible.

The key things to remem­ber are:

The sooner after the upset you can heal, the bet­ter. The fresher the emo­tion is inside you, the eas­ier it is to get to & remove com­pletely. Ide­ally, heal it imme­di­ately. This is where releas­ing is so help­ful, coz you can do it while the per­son is still abusing/shouting at/crying on you. With EFT, you have to imag­ine tap­ping the points (or dis­creetly fin­ger tap) — which works but is harder to do if you're largely con­cen­trat­ing on some­one else. Not impos­si­ble, but harder than just releas­ing any­thing you're feel­ing inside yourself.

Be per­sis­tent. Don't get dis­cour­aged if it seems like the same pain keeps com­ing up. Humans are very lay­ered, & some times it takes a while to really get to the bot­tom of some­thing. There may be many emo­tional reac­tions to a sit­u­a­tion, or many sub­tle vari­a­tions on a theme (eg, some­one can insult, demean, dis­re­spect, dis­miss. ignore, put down, or dis­re­gard you — all basi­cally the same, all sub­tly dif­fer­ent). Just keep let­tinig it all go, it all helps.