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One of the toughest things about healing is this. Half the time we know something is wrong, but can’t put our finger on exactly what the hell is going on.

Why?

Because our mind/ego has a delightful trait of trying to protect us by hiding things from our consciousness.

This is why people get selective amnesia (in extreme cases of trauma), or just forget things (day to day stuff).

This doesn’t stop the hidden issue from royally screwing us over, of course.

So, what the hell to do about it?

Well, I found something cool.

I was reading Noah St John’s afformations when it hit me.

Now, before you go on, I highly recommend signing up for his book excerpt. Whether you buy it or not is up to you, but the three chapters you get by throwing him your email address are very worth reading.

Ok, so his basic premise is this: Affirmations don’t work because our mind rebutts it. “I’m wealthy I’m wealthy” & our mind goes “Uh huh, no you’re not.” So, it all falls apart. Noah’s revelation was that if we phrase affirmations as an open ended question “Why am I so wealthy?” or “How am I so wealthy?” then our mind works for us instead of against us. It starts finding ways to answer the question.

Damn neat idea.

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I got thinking about this in context of healing – of removing those blocks we have, self-sabotages, resistances etc to our success (however you want to define that).

Now, with tapping (EFT), the usual approach is – first we tap out the problem, then we tap in the solution. Negative first, then positive.

Where this falls apart is if we can’t see what the hell is going on.. & where open ended questions come to the rescue.

So, rather than tapping, say, “I hate my life” (which isn’t great, since it’s so general anyway), you tap on “Why do I hate my life?” or “What do I hate about my life?”

Several things happen. First, a lot of times your mind will answer the question – so you then tap on whatever comes up. Just go round a bit until it doesn’t really feel like a problem any more. Secondly (& this is far more interesting), stuff will clear out without you ever having any idea what the hell it was that left.

But then, who cares, right? If it’s gone, that’s all that matters.

I’ve used this approach a lot over the last few weeks, & I’ve gotta say, it kicks righteous ass.

So – start with negative questions.. then have a go with the word “still” in there – that’ll help clear up any leftovers – eg “Why do I still hate my life?”. Then tap in the positive, which in this case would be “Why do I love my life?” or “What do I love about my life?”

I tell yah, works a goddamn treat.

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