si dawson

Some­times life just sucks.

Well, actu­ally it never sucks, but that's a whole other story.

Some­times it feels like life just sucks.

Every­thing seems to be going wrong. We're in a ter­ri­ble mood. We ate some bad clams & the neigh­bour just ran over our poodle.

In these sit­u­a­tions, despite every­thing we know (in our brains), it can be super hard to even moti­vate our­selves to do the sim­ple things that will help. Med­i­tate, EFT, go for a run, you name it.

So, here's a sim­ple trick I learned. Enough to kick you out of a slump & get you calm enough to bring your other tools into play.

Just say "I love myself for hat­ing this."

That's it. You don't even have to believe it, just say it. Keep say­ing it. You'll feel your­self calm down super quick.

Like so many of these things, the more energy you put into it the bet­ter it will work, of course.

If you've got the space, hell, scream it.

Why not? & besides, a good scream now & then can be cathar­tic. Just don't scare the cat.

Why does it work? Well, firstly it takes your focus (ie your energy) away from "it" — the thing you're hat­ing, angry about, upset by or what­ever, & brings it onto yourself.

Sec­ondly, you're giv­ing your­self love, approval, accep­tance. Even just say­ing the words "I love myself" with zero energy behind it is help­ful, if you're in a really neg­a­tive space. If you can say it & mean it, well, so much the better.

What's this all about? Well, self-love, self-approval, self-acceptance are the cor­ner stone of any deep healing.

& what bet­ter time to heal than when you're pissed off about some­thing? Max­i­mum emo­tional con­nec­tiv­ity, so max­i­mum effectiveness.

Oh, & feel free to change the words around to suit your sit­u­a­tion. "I love myself for being upset", "I love myself for throw­ing up", "I love myself for danc­ing badly." It's your life, you make the rules.

One thing I've been learn­ing in spades recently is that life can always be eas­ier, if we just get the hell out of the way & let it be.

Oh, & here's another awe­some tech­nique I found that helps too. Super sim­ple, takes about 2 sec­onds. It's all great stuff!