Category Archives: self-improvement

Release Your Crap; Let The Awesome You Shine!

Releas­ing is a pretty straight for­ward con­cept: sim­ply "let go" of any thoughts/feelings/problems you might have — just like drop­ping a hand­ful of dirt to the floor. There are many releas­ing tech­niques avail­able. They're rel­a­tively sim­i­lar though, so I'll dis­cuss the two key ones I've found so far. If you're inter­ested, both of these stem from dis­cov­er­ies

How To Never Feel Rejected Again

I'm find­ing that when I get the same thing occur­ring in many areas of my life within a very short period of time it's time for me to learn a very spe­cific les­son. Recently I found myself feel­ing rejected, in var­i­ous ways, in 6 or 7 dif­fer­ent sit­u­a­tions over the span of a week or so.

TV Trains You To Expect The Worst

I was watch­ing an episode of United States of Tara the other day when I had some­thing of a real­i­sa­tion. In case you don't know the show, here's the back story. Tara is a woman with dis­so­cia­tive iden­tity dis­or­der (aka mul­ti­ple per­son­al­i­ties). For the sake of TV, they are 5 (or 6) very dis­tinct &

The Moments That Define Us

Now, from a title like that, you may be think­ing I'm talk­ing about those life­time events that mark our place in his­tory — ala Bill Gates sell­ing DOS to IBM, or Lawn Chair Larry. No, I'm talk­ing about the moments that define our char­ac­ter, and as a result, ulti­mately us as human beings. It breaks

Anger is Stupid

Two inter­est­ing things hap­pened to me this week. The first, let's call "Event X", was that some­one made me very, very angry. There's no value in get­ting into the specifics, but I've wracked my brain & been unable to come up with a worse thing that any­one has ever done to me. There prob­a­bly is, I

How To Be Confident

Con­fi­dence is a funny thing. It comes in two flavours. How con­fi­dent other peo­ple believe you are, & how con­fi­dent you feel inter­nally. The two are related, but not nec­es­sar­ily linked. E.g., it's quite com­mon that other peo­ple see us as more con­fi­dent than we may actu­ally feel. So how do you go about becom­ing more

How To Stop Feeling Bad

Why do we feel bad? It's a good ques­tion. An easy answer would be "because bad stuff hap­pens to us", but what for one per­son would be a dis­as­ter, some­one else might barely notice. So what's actu­ally going on here? In a nut­shell? We beat our­selves up. That lit­tle voice in our heads giv­ing us shit. Yep,

Happiness Is Always A Choice

So let's rock this up a notch. We've already dis­cussed that we are not our thoughts or emo­tions. We've checked out not ver­bal­is­ing neg­a­tive thoughts. What's the next log­i­cal thing to do? Take it back a step, of course. If we're not our thoughts or emo­tions, well, who con­trols them? We do! We're the damn boss, &

Stop Whining, Start Winning

How often do you com­plain? No, I don't mean half hour long solil­o­quies at the barista because your cof­fee is cold, I mean just every­day com­plaints. Any­time you ver­bally express a neg­a­tive thought, that's a com­plaint. Why do we do this? Habit, typ­i­cally. Some­times bore­dom, But deeper than that — often­times it's a social thing

Better Communication In One Second

I'm going to start a lit­tle geeky, but be patient, I'll keep it super short & it's totally rel­e­vant. What's inter­est­ing about TCP (heard of TCP/IP? Yeah, it's part of that) is how the ini­tial com­mu­ni­ca­tion, the 'hand­shak­ing' bit goes. Very roughly, it's goes like this: Hello? [SYN] I can hear you! [SYN-ACK] Me too! [ACK]