Category Archives: healing

The Long Dark Listlessness of The Soul

One of the hardest things for me to let go of has been… well… I don't know. A feeling of dread? Ennui? Listlessness? Dissatisfaction? Lack of contentment? A dark heavy cloud hiding at the edge of my awareness? I really don't know. And that, in a nutshell, is exactly the problem. How do you let go of

Learning To Love Everything

Unconditional love is a slippery little bugger. The basic problem is judgement. As soon as our brain screams "This guy doesn't deserve love" or "Yes he does!" then voila, it's no longer unconditional. Yes, even deciding someone does deserve love is not unconditional. But ok, let's back up a bit. Why the hell bother with

Apathy vs Acceptance

Inner peace is very easy; Just stop giving a shit. Well, you know, for crappy versions of 'inner peace.' It's very easy to think we're at peace and have finally accepted something, when really we've accidentally slipped into apathy. You might be peaceful, but you probably won't be happy. All healing, growing or goals we have are

On Judgement

The bible said "Judge not lest ye be judged" — which is pretty funny considering the whole book is chock full of judgement. Touch a football? check. Get a tattoo? check. Sell your daughter as a sex slave? Oh, no actually, that one's ok. Of course, Jesus also said "forget that old testament, honky, all

Anything You Ever Wanted, Get It From Yourself

I realised a long time ago the truism that "What annoys me most in others is what annoys me about myself". This is one of the reasons I've come back to live with my folks for a while. I'd got about as far as I easily could peering into my own navel. Much easier to

How to Clear a Ton of Crap Fast

Remember a while back, I wrote about a more effective version of the Map'n'Tap? Ie, a way to quickly deeply clear everything around any given issue. Well, here's the fastest way I've found if you want to do a whole bunch of maps. Since any mind map should ideally be about a single subject, if you

The Subtlety of Posture

I've talked about posture before and how strongly our mind & body are connected. How if we're feeling crappy, we can adjust ourselves physically and our mind will follow. We can do this just with our face (in the west, often the most outwardly expressive part of us) or with our entire bodies. What I've

Why it seems the crap is never ending

When you first start on a growing or healing journey (aka life), everything seems amazing. Gigantic problems fall away with ease, life gets better, people notice the change in you and for a while it seems like all your worries are gone. After a while though you may start to notice, there's always more crap. What's going on?

A Night Of Bad Dreams

I had a bunch of bad dreams last night. This is very rare for me. Typically these days I might get a single mildly bad dream maybe once or twice a month, if that. But first let me wind back a bit. A few days ago I hung out with a friend of mine. This is someone

Three high states, three lists

There are three super high states of being: Courageousness, Acceptance and Peace. I first talked about them here. These may not be the utterly highest states possible (how much bullshit wankery do we want to get into, really), but they're damn good to aim for. Acceptance is a higher state than Courageousness. Peace is the highest. Courageousness